BeHappyMum regularly asks the opinions of new mums.  In response to our most recent online survey, 44 mums told us how they felt about becoming a mother. Their answers show clearly that they’re adjusting to the changes and stresses of motherhood, and finding it a positive and life-affirming experience.

Becoming a mum – a life-changing experience

BeHappyMum asked new mums how their lives had changed since becoming a mother.  And, not surprisingly, it’s been a life-changing experience for our mums.  The vast majority – 88% – agreed that their lives were more complete, while just 3% felt their lives had not changed at all.  Half our mums (51%) felt they had become a better person as a result of motherhood.

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Mums are more responsible, more organised

Motherhood has clearly had a big impact on the priorities of our mums.  Most of them (72%) felt they had become more responsible since becoming a mother, and around 67% were more aware of how they behaved and what they said. First-time mums experienced these feelings more strongly, with 76% saying they were more responsible and 75% being more aware of their behaviour.

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Our mums also seemed to be making adjustments to deal with the extra demands of motherhood, with around 63% saying that they were more organised (and 64% disagreeing that they were more disorganised now).

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Mums relate better to their own parents

We were fascinated to see that becoming a mother has given our mums greater insight into their parents’ experiences, with more than 7 in 10 (74%) – and 82% of first time mums – saying that they’re now more understanding of their own parents.

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Mums worry, they’re more stressed

Understandably, our mums feel the pressure of the responsibilities that come with this motherhood.  Around 7 in 10 (73%) – and 86% of first time mums – felt more worried about the future, and 6 in 10 (63%) were more stressed

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First-time mums are most isolated

With regard to their wellbeing, 14% of our mums – all of them first-time mothers – said they felt isolated since becoming mothers, with 70% disagreeing that they felt this way.  Around 44% of mums felt their lives didn’t belong to them anymore.

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First-time mums are more health conscious

We were really interested to see how motherhood had affected our mums’ attitude to health.  About half (56%) agreed that they were now more health conscious.  But only 36% of our mums with more than one child said they were more health conscious now, suggesting that the pressures of motherhood tend to push health awareness to one side.

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Conclusions

Our 44 mums clearly feel that becoming a mum is a life-changing experience that has made them rethink their lives and priorities.  Alongside their strong feelings of responsibility come worries about the future; their lives are more stressful but they are becoming more organised.  And they are seeing parenthood in a new light, finding that they now understand their own parents better.  Being a first-time mother heightens many of these feelings, as our mums experience the ups and downs of parenthood for the first time.

 

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