Does your New Year’s Resolution looks the same from year to year and ultimately have a short life cycle?
Well, according to a YouGov survey last December published by The Guardian,“32% pointed out that their resolutions are usually broken by the end of January, while only 10% said they never break one”.
Especially if you are a mother or recently had a baby, it is far more challenging for you to keep the Resolution… but we can still do it!
So let’s make this New Year’s Resolution work by making the following steps…
And check it twice! That’s’ the easiest step. As usual, make a list of the things you plan to do (or to change this year). Put everything you’ve got in your head down. Let us guess… Lose weight? Get fitter? Eat more healthily? See more friends and family? Find more Me Time? The above mentioned survey states these are the most popular items in the list …
Most of us actually are so busy that we get around to just about making the list! So if we want it to work this year then…
The changes would hardly work if we did not place a good REASON behind them would they? There is no action without MOTIVATION and INCENTIVE maybe that’s why most of us break our resolution within the first month of the year?
Take some time to weigh-up the BENEFITS of each change you’ve listed. Do you enjoy eating delicious food to the full or do you feel discomfort after fatty take-aways or perhaps it is too damaging on the budget? Does time with family & their support lift your mood after a meetup so do you need more? Do your friends and colleagues provide the best quality time for your mind and soul?
Some aspects aren’t always easy to define the benefits for, so let’s think WHY do we need to eat that healthily if it is not a part of our shaping-up plan or postpartum weight loss? Would you be better just learning to BALANCE your meals better rather than cutting anything out? What would work for YOU?
Decide for yourself – what out of your resolution list do you REALLY need to feel HAPPY (as that’s the actual point of it right?!) All the rest …has a lesser chance of being fulfilled. Would you agree?
That’s the most difficult step…because if over-ambitious we end up cheating on ourselves!
Attending a gym every day would be just perfect and losing a pound each week would be brilliant. Maybe you can if you wake up an hour earlier every morning to get to the gym before work, or before the kids pick-up and follow relevant exercise regimes, take stairs not lifts, don’t eat in the evenings, don’t drink alcohol when you meet up with friends and then IMPORTANTLY do it EVERY SINGLE DAY…
If being realistic increases the chance of survival for your New Year’s Resolution then put FEASIBILITY against every item in your list or the goal you want to achieve and check they do not contradict each other. For instance, jogging and attending the gym can hardly be manageable to do every day but you may be able to manage a jog twice a week and the gym another day. If you planned to meet up with FRIENDS say once a week then remember you’d have to lose one jog or opt for a realistic alternative like a 5 or 10 minute workout at home with our FitMama App.
If you are a mother and just had a baby, it’s even more important for you to plan your MeTime but do take into account your new LIFE STYLE. If you are less mobile and mother-child bound then think of re-arranging your MeTime for things that only take a FEW MINUTES during the day. If you are keen to feel energised or to shape up post-pregnancy, you can exercise in the kitchen while you’re preparing dinner or at the playground or even in front of the TV. Walking every day is beneficial for you both and easy to be a part of the day plan. Why not try running with a push-chair?
Do not forget the Budget; eating fresh healthy food is not only time-consuming but quite money consuming also so make sure its BALANCED – be careful promising yourself to eat fresh fish every day unless you’re confident your budget is comfortable with this.
Parenting requires huge costs in your life so do think about achieving goals in LESS EXPENSIVE WAYS. For instance, going out with friends. Why not to agree to go for drinks only or making a evening in where everyone brings something each!
A diary or a calendar should be your main friend for your New Year’s Resolution! Don’t ignore this important bond!
Break up the ACTIONS according to your list into the days throughout the first month. Plan, that by the end of the month you have a quick MONTHLY REVIEW of your progress by answering these questions:
- How much of your plan have you managed to follow?
- How difficult has it been to follow the plan?
- What has caused obstacles when following the plan?
- Has it made you any happier?
After reviewing your month’s activity, set up the plan for the next month by taking into account your findings. Do not be discouraged if your plan hasn’t gone smoothly for the first month. You’ve got a WHOLE YEAR AHEAD to make changes…just do not give up even if it isn’t working yet! It’s a YEAR PLAN not just a January Plan 😉
Go further with your planning. Re-occurring reminders in your PHONE will help your plan to stick with you every day of the year. If you do not want to be bothered with a reminder about jogging every second day then set up a reminder about less frequent events (like a hair appointment or even a relaxing bath) DON’T FORGET the reminder for the monthly review too!
If you have a smartphone, take advantage of it’s built in features – nowadays you can set up an event (the broken down actions of your resolution), set up the frequency of reminders, give them different ringtones. Play with that! It’s FREE.
The research says that “telling others [about New Year’s Resolution] increased women’s chance of keeping resolutions by 10%” (Richard Wiseman, quote from BBC).
The more CHALLENGING the plans you’ve made, the more changes you’ll experience which will need more SUPPORT. Finding a buddy is really great but if you prefer moving forward on your own then you still need support of your family and friends especially if you have children. Share your plans with them and ask them for help. Actually speaking out loud about the plan HELPS you to set it up in your mind. The more you talk the more clear the idea & plan will be for yourself. TRY IT!
And share it with yourself! Use your phone to make a video of YOURSELF narrating about the plan, why it is important for you and what do you plan to do to make it work. Watch it throughout the year to SUPPORT and remind yourself about it. Use parenthood as an opportunity to make new friends; there are always MOTHERS who will think alike in the area. Get linked to those who hold similar plans to you. If you have decided you don’t have much time OUTSIDE of the house, then our FitMama and WellMama apps for home give you motivational reward posters every step of the way to keep you motivated!
Apart from the distraction that your smart-phone causes (this was not taking into account while building up the plan!), let’s use it to help keep the New Year’s Resolution.
Find the Facebook pages, twitter accounts, Pinterest boards and Instagram accounts that inspire you for changes and provide support for self-confidence, Parenting management and topics relevant to your New Year’s List. They have great hands-on lists and inspiration for Mothers everywhere. Follow them. Now, you are more supported with your plan and the Force will be with you for this year! (see what we did there?! 😉 You could even follow the people you admire and who inspire you – sometimes just seeing a nice inspiration quote can inspire you day-to-day.
SHARING achievements is really important. The extra mile you’ve run, the new book you’ve read, the selfie of the night out with friends; all of which would remind you that the New Year’s Resolution WORKS!
All range of FREE apps are at your disposal.
- Goal is to drink more water? Water Log app for iOS and Water Log for Android
- Follow the regime? Track your nutrition intake by My Fitness Pal for iOS
- Exercising at home by 5-minute supersets? FitMama app is just for you!
- Try to feel more energised & relieve stress- WellMama App is perfect.
Find your app which is just for your New Year’s Resolution.
Be Flexible! If you are not going to the gym today that does not mean that the results of all your previous efforts disappear. Do something different outside of your list instead. A shower with a body scrub instead maybe? That counts as a Me Time too! Do create new habits not restrictions… It’s not less chocolate you need to plan to eat but eat more fruits and nuts maybe?
Be Kind To Yourself! Nothing that makes you unhappy should be in your plan. Feel free to change it if you feel upset and find your way of doing the things that make you happy.
It is just you and the new resolutions you need to build up a team to move into this New Year. Good luck for your New Year’s Resolution and we are here to support you every step of the way!
BeHappyMum Team x